Ignorance is Strength

must be wondering why sometimes i tend to ignore frens with their problem?

its not tht i am very cruel, no empathy, dun understand ppl...n it goes on n on....

why i ignore it because i have my own reasons...

not because i dunwan to help anyone already nor i want to run away from taking responsibilities...

but because i found its the best way for them to solve their own problem...

certain people (i will not mention who...for P&C reasons) will only making their problems worse..once they have somebody to talk to...

or perhaps not getting worse, some cases they would actually create a new problem..(so creative wor?) lol...

n why do we need to continue "feeding" of those who only making their prob worse because u console them...

no...its not because i am bad in it...hello...i have years of experiences in this situations...

only after i have study n understand it...yes

it is best to ignore them with their problem...for their own benefit...

n guess what it really works...

it is like their behavior is not positively reinforce...they tend to "sien" with it n change for better....

i knw giving up on certain frens wit prob is not something acceptable especially for those in counseling field...cos it is not right to abandon ur client...

but wat if u can solve it in within weeks rather than months or years? better right? n since i am not earning my income from there also...or gain any benefit...

so wat they will hate me for this or felt disappointed but ask urself...don't u think u had improve a lot from this ignorance?

so sometimes it is best to ignore certain cases tht only becoming worse when u console them...

not to mention...for my own personal opinion....(not support by anything ah)

tht when one person is ignore with their problem...

he or she will indirectly applying Kubler Ross model to themselves...n yes it will be something they are unaware of...(even myself i agree with it)

ya it may seems like it only applies for something relevant to death...

no, trust me...in my personal experiences it actually applies on certain crisis n dilemmas...

how it applied?

ok we knw tat kubler ross model has this five stages

Denial--->Anger--->Bargaining--->Depress--->Acceptance

n wat if u apply to a crisis say...(touchwood ah) ur gf or bf dump u...for another person...

Denial. for those in long term relationship, of course u will not believe this thing will happen n u x accept it at all...so the person will tend on repetitive denying it, n thinks it can't be happening its not real its not true...this thing happen to tat person...n even he ever thought of getting married with him or her at the end....

Anger. of course when u found out wat are the causes, n reasons for this break up...u will get angry x control urself...felt like u wanna have revenge n all this la...some cases will go berserk or amok because of it....if not properly monitor, it will also end up murdering...so monitoring the person at this stage is very very important....(caution some may still stay at this stage for a long time, n a cue to move out from there is needed for him..)

Bargaining . Yes...after the anger and all this....the person will say "if only i could be better for her or him" or the person will go to the love one n begging for her or him to come back again... beg n beg like its never ending one...

Depress. n wat happen when the bargaining fails? depress mode is on!...depress the person it is...feeling helpless giving up n regret even more..for wt happened n sad sad....so at this stage...in order to move on....this is the point u step in briefly to comfort...i say comfort jus comfort...not console...because i assure u...the person in this situation with a little bit of support n comfort...he or she will move on to.....

Acceptance. after all this sad emotional rush on his or hers feelings...finally after he had enough of the depression...the person will end up accepting it as a fact...n giving up to go n fight back their love one again...some may forget the person forever..but le...some may even come back n talk like normal again....like it never happened before....

this my fren is the reason why i choose to ignore some of my frens with problem...n although it will talk longer than it sounds...but the thing is, it wil guarantee success...if careful monitor is involve...la....

so don't need to ask why...once more why i choose to ignore some of my frens problem...or not involving in it anymore...

till then frens....

caution: this is mostly for the means of sharing my opinion n practicing my FREEDOM OF SPEECH..not meant to SHOOT on anyone i knw....so pls remain silent! if u happen to disagree with me..cos it is my RIGHT n when comes to HUMAN RIGHTS! it calls for MUTUAL RESPECT (do i need to define it?) thank you for your understanding...enjoy reading ya...

*seriously...i getting more n more tired of writting this everytime write my own thoughtful article...thanks to CERTAIN STARTER...owh human n their conformity =="....*

thats all...god bless u with ur exams n assignments...