swimming in the ocean

specially thanks to Counselling Practicum cos it actually gave me the idea for a metaphor to describe my uni life...

yes...everyone has their own metaphor to describe their uni life..some may mention bout coffee or perhaps like riding a car?

but mine is.....

"swimming in the ocean"

swimming is the ocean may sounds crazy n weird...

yes, uni life is one heck of crazy journey for us...u may see it thru someday....

so as we swim across the ocean...the wide journey seems never ending journey

we may be given up on certain thing or mayb some may give up either before attempt to swim or some may even gave up half way thru the journey...

this journey is not an easy one tats why...

and even if u r ironman athlete, there's few things tat may be getting in ur way...

in the sea...

there are predators...

they will wait for u silently n cunningly to strike u...although the journey may seems promising to u...face the fact! some of the ppl around u may purposely backstab u for the benefit of self... or some may ditch u...or some may even wanna try to defeat u until u left nothing but bones...its true cos when there's human there will be such things ..not to mention there's some situation when u try to achieve it but u r crippled or become lame because of some weakness u have or because of ur background tat u can't avoid maybe?....so face the fact...but x see it as negative, why? without them..chasing after u..will u keep on running? no right?

then...away u r from the predators...

but u r human...u need to come out to surface to inhale sufficient oxygen into ur lungs to continue ur journey...but u knw..in uni life...nt everything will goes as ur plan...sometimes unfortunate things may occur to u..n u never knw when it happen just like lightning strikes u without any advance warning or any clue to u...this is life my fren...cos we are human n we are not the almighty god..so we can't see our future accurately as He is...tats why..

some may fall after this unfortunate strike...( i knw cos i almost got myself there) but i believe tat miracle will happen n it did...so i resume my journey although it is nonsense that once u strike by lightning n yet u still can be alive...should have drown urself deep deep into the sea....

miracle...my fren....miracle anything impossible happen when there's miracle....tats why...

however...some i knw do not knw how to swim at all...n fear of drowning themselves into the ocean...so may not even dare to try...no it doesn't matter...if u knw or not...to swim...u can also find a smarter alternative way perhaps to cross the ocean...n tat is by building a boat

as simple ur boat is ...it doesn't matter..as long u can make it float...built it with ur own will n wit ur own talent n honesty...it doesn't matter right? although seas may be rough or dangerous for such a simple boat to get across...but with the faith n heart...perhaps those who swimming along side u will help u to support it eventually

supporting u till u reach the shore...which we all ended together there...

and this shore is not a normal one as we all knw as we all sees it...daily

its something tht everyone dying to achieve it...risk themselve to be there...

what for?

because of the beauty n frens u struggle together will be there...or perhaps the place tht once describe by ur parents or someone u respect?

yes this is how i sees my uni life....

yet i do realize that u r swimming further n further away from ur own homeland to reach the paradise island...why u wanna do tat...? why do u wanna abandon ur family? ur dad, ur mom? ur sis n ur frens?

well i x position to explain to u why but wat i knw is to achieve such a goal..u need to drop some of ur past u feel safety

u x be the same as u will end up lik stagnant water...

u need to experience the changes of ur life...for the benefit of ur family n urself...this is important...if u wish to achieve ur own success

so my frens out there.... watever stress or some hopeless goal u face...

jus dun give up halfway...either u x step into the water or u find an alternative way to reach the shore of the paradise island...

because if u do so...no one is there to save u...speaking of ocean as the wide n vast places its hard to find u...its like a bean in the rices...

jus dun give up..braise urself...frens are there to help u also...like the boat...even if u r genius, can do well in academic but socially support is needed too...

family not to mention bout them...who concern u from behind...giving u hope n guidance n care u like as if u r still their forever baby to them...

just don't give up if u r halfway there...breath in the air awhile n continue swimming...

but not too long la breathing the air or else the predator will come after u....

so my frens...all the best n braise urself if u encounted it...

lik my motto i always had...."indulge and endure, what may come"

till then my frens...

fyi: i got this metaphor inspired by robinson crusoe stories n the castaway by tomhanks...

Ignorance is Strength

must be wondering why sometimes i tend to ignore frens with their problem?

its not tht i am very cruel, no empathy, dun understand ppl...n it goes on n on....

why i ignore it because i have my own reasons...

not because i dunwan to help anyone already nor i want to run away from taking responsibilities...

but because i found its the best way for them to solve their own problem...

certain people (i will not mention who...for P&C reasons) will only making their problems worse..once they have somebody to talk to...

or perhaps not getting worse, some cases they would actually create a new problem..(so creative wor?) lol...

n why do we need to continue "feeding" of those who only making their prob worse because u console them...

no...its not because i am bad in it...hello...i have years of experiences in this situations...

only after i have study n understand it...yes

it is best to ignore them with their problem...for their own benefit...

n guess what it really works...

it is like their behavior is not positively reinforce...they tend to "sien" with it n change for better....

i knw giving up on certain frens wit prob is not something acceptable especially for those in counseling field...cos it is not right to abandon ur client...

but wat if u can solve it in within weeks rather than months or years? better right? n since i am not earning my income from there also...or gain any benefit...

so wat they will hate me for this or felt disappointed but ask urself...don't u think u had improve a lot from this ignorance?

so sometimes it is best to ignore certain cases tht only becoming worse when u console them...

not to mention...for my own personal opinion....(not support by anything ah)

tht when one person is ignore with their problem...

he or she will indirectly applying Kubler Ross model to themselves...n yes it will be something they are unaware of...(even myself i agree with it)

ya it may seems like it only applies for something relevant to death...

no, trust me...in my personal experiences it actually applies on certain crisis n dilemmas...

how it applied?

ok we knw tat kubler ross model has this five stages

Denial--->Anger--->Bargaining--->Depress--->Acceptance

n wat if u apply to a crisis say...(touchwood ah) ur gf or bf dump u...for another person...

Denial. for those in long term relationship, of course u will not believe this thing will happen n u x accept it at all...so the person will tend on repetitive denying it, n thinks it can't be happening its not real its not true...this thing happen to tat person...n even he ever thought of getting married with him or her at the end....

Anger. of course when u found out wat are the causes, n reasons for this break up...u will get angry x control urself...felt like u wanna have revenge n all this la...some cases will go berserk or amok because of it....if not properly monitor, it will also end up murdering...so monitoring the person at this stage is very very important....(caution some may still stay at this stage for a long time, n a cue to move out from there is needed for him..)

Bargaining . Yes...after the anger and all this....the person will say "if only i could be better for her or him" or the person will go to the love one n begging for her or him to come back again... beg n beg like its never ending one...

Depress. n wat happen when the bargaining fails? depress mode is on!...depress the person it is...feeling helpless giving up n regret even more..for wt happened n sad sad....so at this stage...in order to move on....this is the point u step in briefly to comfort...i say comfort jus comfort...not console...because i assure u...the person in this situation with a little bit of support n comfort...he or she will move on to.....

Acceptance. after all this sad emotional rush on his or hers feelings...finally after he had enough of the depression...the person will end up accepting it as a fact...n giving up to go n fight back their love one again...some may forget the person forever..but le...some may even come back n talk like normal again....like it never happened before....

this my fren is the reason why i choose to ignore some of my frens with problem...n although it will talk longer than it sounds...but the thing is, it wil guarantee success...if careful monitor is involve...la....

so don't need to ask why...once more why i choose to ignore some of my frens problem...or not involving in it anymore...

till then frens....

caution: this is mostly for the means of sharing my opinion n practicing my FREEDOM OF SPEECH..not meant to SHOOT on anyone i knw....so pls remain silent! if u happen to disagree with me..cos it is my RIGHT n when comes to HUMAN RIGHTS! it calls for MUTUAL RESPECT (do i need to define it?) thank you for your understanding...enjoy reading ya...

*seriously...i getting more n more tired of writting this everytime write my own thoughtful article...thanks to CERTAIN STARTER...owh human n their conformity =="....*

thats all...god bless u with ur exams n assignments...

My delayed Happy Malaysia Day!

the last night at around this time....

as i went out for dinner, i saw something very interesting tht sparks my idea to blog

n wat exactly is the incident? well...

i saw a chinese mother with her child playing candles with two indian children (which happen to be the chinese mother's neighbour) n they all get along very well...very fun instead, i can hear laughter i can hear them talking bout it each other, yet the language they used by the indians was english n yet the boy speaks chinese to them...

i was wondering how could they actually communicate each other ? i wonder they understand each other? well it seems like they do...cos they were smiling to each other...

how wonderful it is le?

not only tat, in unrelated event, when i came back home from yumcha, i saw the same chinese mother n the indian mother were talking to each other...n they were like talking as if they are very good frens (gossiping and all those things la lol..housewives talk lol..)

n ya wats so special about it?

yes there is.....they actually comm each other in CANTONESE..yup i am serious in it..cos i pull my ear very long to confirm this...imagine that an indian actually spoke cantonese (fluent one) to her...n seems like not threaten at all....

what say you?

5 years old children, can get along very well..not even fight or stereotype among each other...

if a child can instinctively not being racist among each other...why not us?

why should we need to be racist or stereotyped among each other?

why need to go against each other? worth meh?

of course not...

be tolerate to each other...so wat we have different culture n belief...

but there is one thing for sure that we are all the SAME!

n that is...

WE ARE MALAYSIANS!

n this is something we should be proud of to have such a multicultural nation like us...ask u...

cos u never gonna enjoy such varieties of food thnks to different races in malaysia....

we have more festivals thanks to different cultures in malaysia....

so MALAYSIANS...learn wat tht young children did...n x be ashame of it...cos its something pride for u to do it...

so this i wrote in conjunction of my delayed HAPPY MALAYSIA DAY!!

what did i do this lately?

i guess nothing much cos i am jus some nobody in the town lol...

but still i got a life though....(of course la lol...)

before that.....i need to inform u why did i type so fucking slow...or perhaps mayb short lol....

picture says it all~

no bruise or wound...jus my wrist dunno why le, internally lik so in pain...so fear i might have carpal tunnel...so prevention is better than cure....wise choice le? lol...

n how the hell did my hand end up like this? why thanks to the UAPP2043 CHILD DEVELOPMENT lo....imagine i finish it up the remaining 2 question with 5 pages of it...in just less THAN 30 MINUTES lol....call it pro or wat? oh well wat to do le...

nvm....janji can pass ok liaw la lol....p/s: its not because i didnt study well or much k? i did...n most of it is related wit my assignment so u knw la oh....

so wat did i do le this lately? hmmm....

first of all....before the exam starts....i went all the way to fishing marathons hahahhaha....

no not running or watever those shits...

but rather continuous fishing activities...for few days...woah felt like fishermen d...me n bunch of great frens here lol....(teaching me extra info bout fishing lol...)

not only the fish tat attract us into this marathon activities instead its the feeling of relaxation environment....its so nice till u can actually refresh ur mind....a great foundation to prepare urself to study for exam!! pat on my shoulder i shall say...hahhaha

how relaxing issit? why x worry...i got few picts to show y'all hahhaha

nice environment right? felt so relaxing n peaceful with the air breeze flow thru ur face....woah~

yes...i knw i'm getting fatter d...lol...eat as usual as i am but le...the lifestyle is so so bored...not active at all...wat can i do le?

n here's more pict of it...

kenny n victor...n the view....its funny some ppl claimed there's a crocodile...ya i did saw one....the relative to the crocodile...biawak air tu....aiyeyeye if only i got the tools n ways to hunt it down n cook it for green curry yummy~

and here's a pict of the catch....btw a lot of catch...no.1 is the rohu fish (it happened easier thanks to navin's dedak lol..) then follow by haruan fish....

itu dia...the first blood catch by wui lun hahhah (its a rohu fish btw)....accompany by navin n yama....the first catch also contributed to yama's epic action lol...hahhaha he literary swam to get on the grip with the rod lol....damn its a ganas one...

and the best of all the catch!!

belida~ this is one hell of an ass to catch....navin was like fighting with it like hell until towards near the bank....woah....tell u wat its so strong until need few of us to hulurkan tangan to grab it...was suppose to have more than one le...but then....no net....zzz.....nvm...at least we all have the price....but most credit to navin's hahahhah

now tats fun bout fishing.....

the adrenalin sudden rush in when there's a fish hook on the bait woah...lol...

i think tats all la...the minor ones...x necessary la...lol....

but wats important is as long if there's a relaxing activities janji sure we our mind n soul are at ease....yes...we as a student do have stress although generally it may seems like working is worse than studying...

well.....all i can say is tat we all have different type of stress...n working have different type of stress too.... its only depends on how we cope wit it...

till then ppl....

have fun reading it n all the best for ur exam!!!